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On Being

On Being takes up the big questions of meaning. Each day, a new discovery about the immensity of our lives, curated by executive editor Trent Gilliss.
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"Why was the title song from Sting’s Broadway play, 'The Last Ship Sails,' so alluring? Its cultural and historical context couldn’t be further from my own experience. No ocean front, no ship building, no row houses in my past. Yet, in a strange and unexpected way, the song stirs up memories of my daddy." A song of hard-working shipyards inspired guest contributor Fleda Mask Jackson, the daughter of an African-American railroad man, to honor her father — whose quiet strength fueled his work and his love for family: "The Mask men were railroad men, and despite the degradation they experienced because of the color of their skin, they were also fiercely proud of the work they did to move the nation across millions of miles, coast to coast. I don’t know what role African-American men had in actually building the trains, but I know for certain that among the ranks of the railroad men were leaders who built and christened the Civil Rights movement that transformed the American political, economic, and social byways. So many of the organizers and leaders of the Civil Rights movement were railroad workers, demanding the rights promised to them as United States citizens. My daddy and his brothers were tough, prideful men who worked hard to provide for their families, driven by their unrelenting belief that things would be better for their children than it had been for them. I am told that my uncle Joe, my daddy’s brother, was immaculately dressed for work each day. Starched and creased from head to toe — from his hat to his underwear — carrying a briefcase. He thought of himself as a professional railroad worker, tasked with making sure that everything ran smoothly. Henry Mask, my dad, less ornate, also left our home each day, with a purpose: to make certain that I could go as far as possible, farther than he could imagine." I encourage you to take a moment to sit with Fleda's piece — a beautiful testimony to labor and providing for future generations. You can read more at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/of-ships-and-railroads-an-ode-to-men-and-daddies/8399 #fatherhood #family #history #AfricanAmerican #blackhistory [Photo courtesy the Railroad Museum of Pennsylvania]
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"What are the three words you would like people to use to describe you when you’re not in the room?" Others see us in ways that we may not imagine, or even feel completely comfortable with. Recalling the disappointing descriptor attached to her by peers throughout her youth, our columnist Courtney Martin reflects on the complicated work of asserting our identity — which often means embracing the parts we'd like to shed with pride: “How much of what others see in us are qualities we get to choose, and how much are qualities that choose us? I wouldn’t choose sweet, but I would choose fun. I can be fun — don’t get me wrong — but I’m not naturally the life of the party. I have a natural seriousness about me... Which is exactly why I would need to choose fun; it doesn’t always choose me. This inquiry reminds me of my daughter. Just two years old, she’s already teaching me that there’s no escaping your essence. She’s got some undeniable qualities already emerging. She is, for example, extremely discerning... I wonder if she’ll embrace this quality as she ages, or if she’ll develop a conflicted relationship to it, as I have with my sweetness or seriousness. Will she go off to college, hoping to appear easy going, only to find out that her intensity has followed her all the way across the country? Will she come to understand, as I have, that there are light and dark sides to every quality that we realize is central to our essence? Her discernment is part of what will, no doubt, break her heart; it will also, I’m guessing, help her succeed in lots of interesting ways. Call me serious. Call me sweet. I now understand that, though I may not have chosen those descriptors, they chose me. And there’s something sacred and mysterious about that. I can’t shed them entirely. But I can, with some wisdom and humility, wear them differently." Take a moment to read the entirety of Courtney's piece at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/courtney-martin-our-insecapable-selves/8401 #identity #self #labels [Photo by Jordi Boixareu, via Flickr]
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velazquezintransition : Thanks for sharing it, wonderful food for personality thought <3
thedancingtulip : But the three words tho....different for each person viewing you? Like the blindfolded ppl feeling different parts of the elephant and describing "what it is" wildly differently?
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"I knew nothing about Islam. I don’t know that I’d even heard the word until my senior year in high school, when the twin towers fell. When I got to college, I knew enough to know I didn’t know anything at all." When we encounter the stranger, a deepening exchange takes place. Guest contributor Claire Dietrich Ranna, an Episcopal priest, calls for a return to unity and the remembrance of the shared history and values that bind Christians and Muslims together: "Though I remained a practicing Episcopalian, I quickly fell in love with Islam. I built a religion minor out of that passion and spent two years learning Arabic. I studied abroad in Turkey and West Africa. I learned that Islam traces its heritage back to Abraham, just as Christianity and Judaism do. I learned that Muslims affirm five 'pillars' of faith, all of which should sound extremely familiar to Christians: a declaration of faith, daily prayer, fasting, charity, and pilgrimage. Muslims uphold the New Testament and the Hebrew Scriptures as sacred texts, revere Jesus as a great prophet, and his mother, Mary, as a saint... I could read parts of the Qur'an, which says 'Surely those who believe, and those who are Jews, and Christians, whoever believes in God and the Last Day and does good, they shall have their reward from their Lord.' I got a glimpse from several brilliant students about what it means to be a strong, educated, and deeply faithful Muslim woman. I heard from scholars about the many and nuanced ways in which Islam wrestles with secularism and various social issues. I learned that it would be no more accurate to say every Muslim is an extremist, even if the only extremists I saw on TV were Muslim, than it would be to say every Caucasian male is a serial killer, even though most serial killers actually are white males. Over all those years and all those conversations, all those trips and all those friendships, I learned that Muslims and Christians aren’t simply neighbors. We are in-laws. Step-siblings. Not-so-distant cousins. We are family." You can read the entirety of Claire's piece at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/all-in-the-abrahamic-family/8372 #Christian #Muslim #history #faith
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em_muhl : This is beautiful and so important to remember. I am a Christian and know many of my same faith are quick to judge or assume awful things about those of the Islamic faith. It's all the same- just given a different name and slightly different traditions. All that matters is that they teach LOVE and Islam does just that, as does Christianity, although unfortunately we don't always show it. Thank you for this post!
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marcicorroelij : Abrahamic religions have more in common than not - branches on the same tree!
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“Bragging about hiring a few people of color, or women, seems to come from the same interpretive bias, where a small amount is enough. It also puts significant pressure on the few ‘diverse’ folks who are allowed into any given club, where they are expected to be ambassadors of sorts, representing the minority identity while conforming to the majority one.” In her latest column, Courtney Martin quotes Anna Holmes, who wrote in New York Times Magazine on her frustration with the diminishing power of the word "diversity" — the result, she believes, of "a combination of overuse, imprecision, inertia, and self-serving intentions." After the uproar over the Academy Awards' failure to nominate any actors of color this year, Courtney tackles these surfacing questions of the value of diversity — and points out that, in trying to adjust our aperture of belonging, we must describe the fullness of one's identity. "Ask yourself this question: Would you rather have the finite amount of information that strangers know about you be your race and/or sex, or some inkling, no matter how incomplete, of your larger experience in the world? It’s a no-brainer. The goal, of course, is to get beyond the pitch, beyond the finite amount of information, and give a wider range of people a chance to be known — known, importantly, in a way that they author and feel excited about. If you don’t want to host a tokenizing event, don’t pressure people to represent their entire race or sex. Introduce them according to their full credentials. Don’t ask them to speak only to issues directly related to their race and/or sex, and don’t ask for their input only when the world is watching and you know you’ll get “good white people” points. In other words, create a real relationship that transcends the public moments." You can read the rest of Courtney's piece at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/courtney-martin-an-aperture-of-belonging-the-problem-with-diversity/8386 #race #diversity #intersectionality #film #culture #Oscars [Photo by DryHundredFear, via Flickr]
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beingerin : @melnic08 I agree. The language is so powerful though & spot on in tackling the issue.
moeonthego : @beingerin it's all very thought provoking even the image
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What if instead of asking "How do you identify yourself?" we asked "What's your story?" You may have encountered Vishavjit Singh before — in his alter ego, Sikh Captain America, or through his often hilarious but always honest and challenging webcomic, Sikhtoons. We're pleased and honored to have received this essay from Vishavjit, in which he tells the sometimes embattled, often joyful story of finding belonging as a Sikh man in America — and wonders how we might perceive and understand each other differently if we reframed our defining questions. "I have donned the uniform time and again from New York to California to Kansas to Mississippi. I have received messages of love from everyone, including 9/11 responders, veterans, and those serving in armed forces today. I have showcased my art and carried the message of hope on my narrow shoulders. In civilian clothes I always start by asking audiences where they think I am from. Just about everyone places me outside of the United States. When I ask them which ethnic group they think targets me the most in person, there is a unanimous response: white people. In reality it is black and Hispanic men who have a lion’s share of hands in targeting me. With wide eyes and jaws dropped at this revelation, I share my story. I know what many of you are thinking. This is too complicated of a response to categorize people. Life is complicated. Our identities are complicated. White people en masse are not racists. Sikhs en masse are not foreigners. Muslims en masse are not extremists. Our lives are drafts of stories being written, edited, and altered continuously. Only by sharing them out loud will we begin to dismantle the linguistic shallowness of labels and their potential abuse by extremists abroad and at home." I encourage you to take a moment to read Vishavjit's piece (and watch his joyful and incredibly well made video on being Sikh Captain America in New York City!), which you can do at www.onbeing.org/blog/the-wild-journey-of-a-sikh-captain-america/8390 [Image by Vishavjit Singh, via www.sikhtoons.com] #Sikh #SikhCaptainAmerica #identity #religion #faith
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2antinous : Perfect eyesight. Even more perfect message.
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Growing up with firearms provided life-long lessons on responsibility and discipline for many families. Jackson Culpepper, a man born and raised in a Southern hunting family, writes of his struggle to reconcile the heritage of guns in his life and our our deeply held tendencies to trust in the myth of redemptive violence: "The problem of the myth is that belief in violence blinds us to all other possibilities, which include forgiveness, reconciliation, a social contract, and democracy. I came to believe that real courage involved finding ways not to harm. It meant facing evil acts while forgiving the perpetrators. It meant picking up the pieces of my broken heart, joining with others and, to paraphrase Mother Jones, praying for the dead and fighting like hell for the living. This fight means laws to keep guns out of the hands of those who have demonstrated their own violence. But the fight must go deeper: we must imagine and create a society that no longer relies on violence to function. Everything from our art and media to our family dynamics and our foreign policy must take part in this revolution. We must deal with the guns, but we must also deal with the tendencies of our own hearts to trust in violence. Perhaps, if we do that work, our guns can mean something besides a belief in violence. Hunting rifles used to be more common than the black steel assault weapons that signify a belief, and maybe a delight, in redemptive violence. Can a gun be something besides an extension of our anger and fear? Can we understand they are nothing like toys? Most importantly, can we look past the rhetoric of guns to what they really are, and discern what place they may rightly have in our lives, both personal and national?" I highly recommend that you read the entirety of Jackson's piece — such a refreshingly and hearteningly thoughtful, honest, and generous reflection. You can read and share it at www.onbeing.org/blog/the-thread-of-violence-to-love-and-learn-from-guns/8370 [Photo by Mustafa Khayat, via Flickr] #guns #violence #guncontrol #gunviolence #South
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The voyage of discovery comes from seeing the world with grateful eyes. Tonight, I'm thankful for this poem from Jeannie Greensfelder, which awakened me to fuller presence — a contemplation of aging, attention, and gratitude: "The '70s are my favorite decade. The angst of youth has resolved and seeing the end of the road encourages me to treasure every moment, and take time for meditation and silence. The miracle of being alive, of having a mind and senses, of sharing this journey with loved ones, brings immense gratitude and this poem: 'The Trip' I pack my suitcase, each day adding more: cloud blouses, sky skirts, and a wind scarf carefully tucked among pear trees and song sparrows. Beside my daughter’s buoyant spirit and her tears, I position my son’s pragmatism and heart. I place Morning Man, my rise and shine guy who adores me, next to Evening Man who naps before bedtime. I take Anne’s listening, Coco’s stories, Joan’s laugh and Eve’s wonder. At Costco, I toss in the little boy sprawled on a couch, and the old woman serving pita pieces. And I’m in there at age four bouncing on my parents’ bed, at twelve finding I could flirt, at nineteen holding my baby, at thirty-four launching a forty-year marriage. I see myself in the mirror, study the me I’ve become, then peel my reflection, fold it, lay it on top, and close the suitcase." You can read the rest of Jeannie's piece at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/having-new-eyes/8026 #aging #family #memory #poetry [Photo by Anne Worner, via Flickr]
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In our neck of the woods, it's now the melancholy height of winter — past the warmth and cheer of the holidays, and solidly in the cold and gray of January. But according to guest contributor Katharine Rose (who you might remember from her brilliant reflection on Adele's journey toward authenticity), perhaps what we most need to chase away the gray is a bit of the blues. In a ballad by the legendary Buddy Guy, "Flesh and Bone," she finds an unexpectedly heartening message of hope in transcending our earthly griefs: "With a poignant refrain that invites us to contemplate a life 'more than' our fleshly existence — more than our human desires and temptations, frustrations and fears, tribulations and doubts — it simultaneously encourages us to transcend those very things, to 'live higher': 'This life is more than flesh and bone Find out now before you’re gone When you go your spirit lives on This life is more than flesh and bone' ...More than a religious ballad, however, 'Flesh and Bone' also provides a welcome reminder of the importance of perspective, the perspective that we’re more than earth-bound creatures of the here and now with long lists of 'things to do.' During these cold days of January, days in which we feel so acutely our fleshly existence and so easily succumb to the instant gratification our flesh desires, we can find a more enduring kind of solace in embracing the perspective of a 'higher' world of mystery and spirit that this song evokes. So perhaps it is fitting to turn to Buddy Guy after all. Considered the last of the blues legends, he is representative of a genre of music that, although rather marginalized in our culture, is known for eliciting heartfelt, soulful, and raw emotion. His music reminds us that this life is, indeed, more than flesh and bone." You can read the rest of Katharine's piece at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/more-than-flesh-and-bone-a-blues-ballad-for-living-higher/8376 #blues #music #BuddyGuy #MondayEveningMelody [Photo by Ted Van Pelt, via Flickr]
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"It sounds contradictory. My most romantic relationships are platonic? But the kind of romance I’m talking about isn’t sexual. The kind of romance I’m talking about is charged with the magnetism of the unknown." From rom coms to ballads, romance between lovers is endlessly celebrated — but what about the swooning love we feel for our friends? As she's moved through life, our columnist Courtney Martin has learned a few things about relationships, from marriage, to circumstantial acquaintance, to deep, long-term friendship, and the happy distinctions among them all. Each elevates different kinds of love in unique ways — but here, she celebrates of the inimitable joy of platonic courtship and attachment: "It’s nervously texting a new friend something pretty random and hoping she’ll shoot something witty back — simply because it’s fun to be in touch. It’s 'learning' someone — is she the kind of person who goes to a hip hop dance class or would she rather make some fancy mixed drinks and watch our kids smash all the different colors of play-dough together? Will she be less into me when she realizes that I don’t cook? Is it time to share the hard stuff with her or will she think it’s too much, too soon? I moved across the country a few years ago, so I’ve done this dance a lot recently, and I find it thrilling. I also find it not unlike what happened between my partner and me when we met. In the very beginning, there is the witty banter, the checking one another out, the refreshingly easy laughs. A sort of meta-evaluator in my head is watching and saying, 'Oh wow, okay. Huh. This is really fun.' The time is flying, the equivalent of Csikszentmihalyi’s flow, but for friendship. And then there is this 'click' moment where I just know that I’ve met one of my people. My meta-evaluator says, 'I’m totally into her. I hope she’s into me.' I get a little nervous. It feels good to be nervous." You can read the rest of Courtney's piece — and share it with the platonic true-loves in your life — via http://www.onbeing.org/blog/courtney-martin-new-friendship-is-the-last-great-romance/8367 #friendship #love #attachment #relationships #joy [Photo by David C. Wong, via Flickr]
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Avid Instagrammers, you're no doubt acquainted with Gli, the famed feline mascot of the Hagia Sophia mosque in Istanbul. (After all, as Omid Safi notes in his column this week, cats do rule the internet.) But thanks to an act of animal generosity by Mustafa Efe, an imam who opened the doors of his mosque to provide shelter for stray cats during the cold winter months, Gli is no longer the only four-legged, whiskered resident of Istanbul's places of worship. Inspired by this man's kindness, Omid celebrates love extended beyond the borders of kinship, community, and species: "The story is not a solitary one. A few days ago I was reminded when a friend posted a note on social media about an old tradition in Ottoman societies (today’s Turkey, Palestine, Syria, Lebanon, Egypt, Bosnia, Greece, etc.). Whenever it snows, people go to the top of a mountain and scatter seeds for birds. The reason is as simple as it is immediate: birds are creatures of God. And as the Prophet said, if you want the All-Merciful God to show you mercy, show mercy to the creation of the All-Merciful. A Palestinian friend of mine posted this story about this tradition of feeding birds, attributed back to the Muslim Caliph ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul Aziz as following: 'Go and spread seeds on the tops of mountains — may the birds not die of starvation in a Muslim country.' May the cats not die of cold. May the birds not die of starvation. This outpouring of compassion brought me back around to the very species showing kindness in this beautiful and generous way: human beings. I thought of the millions of human refugees — in Turkey, in Lebanon, in Jordan, in Europe. Millions internally displaced in Syria. May the human homeless, the human poor, the human hungry, the human refugee not be neglected in any country." You can read the rest of Omid's piece at http://www.onbeing.org/blog/omid-safi-cats-in-mosques-seeds-on-the-ground-the-inner-mosque-of-the-human-heart/8364 [Photo by Agnes Chang, via Flickr] #Islam #mosque #HagiaSophia #Gli #kindness #generosity #love
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